Getting my life together

I have had time to really look at myself and look at my life as a mum and generally to really work on different areas of my life. 

Building relationships, like money and my self image. I no longer am self critical and thankful for who I am and want to be. It has taken a long time. I write a blog called Building Self Confidents The Ugly Duckling, and how my happiness with my self image has taken a lot of work, and not alone in having such feelings. 

With money, not spending a lot and now check my bank account everyday and give myself a £100 allowance each month and budget on where my money goes and cancelling Debits and subscriptions I no longer use and have a spreadsheet to monitor where my moneys gone each week. I use Excel, may bank app and my Filofax to monitor my expenses and save. 

I also write a blog called Organize4thebetter and have written about getting my life together on that platform and was one of my first blogs I wrote, because I never used to be organized and something I have had to work on as I can live in a mess and I have hoarded and now changing that habit. I want to use what I have already got and do a regular declutter, as it really helps my wellbeing and to be able to enjoy what I own and life isn't having lots of stuff. 

Then there is food. I can easily eat a lot of biscuits but this is changing. I have gotten fed up of snacking and gain control of my eating habits. Today I made sure I had a good breakfast and didn't snack, but when my son was home, he had some cheeselets and I caved, but had a good lunch with a baguette and apple and so going to make fuller lunches, and plan my meals again. 

Every good habit I add to my life, can help be the person I wish to be and not for anyone else, but for me and putting my needs first because I want to make sure I have energy to play sports with my son and take him to different places and build his hobbies and being thankful that I have a good supportive family and many don't and stop my begrudging feelings are put to rest and feel proud of my family and friends doing well and that I show up and be me. 

So I hope this blog helps you to Getting your life together and lower the expectation and give yourself credit and build on your habits, to be the person you want to be and have a life you can love.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X  

Getting tasks out of the way to free up time to relax

I today went for my morning walk, and got a phone call regarding a job I may be doing, and felt inner fear like  "Will this be good or bad?" but it was okay just had to do a few more tasks and going to get these done by tomorrow if it is truly possible. 

Check out new Vlog for 2024: 

There are times I want to avoid certain tasks, and I know once it is done I will feel better, example I like doing vlogs but find it a challenge to edit them to appeal to my audience, and that they are real and raw, but would take a whole day.

Now I have got a new laptop, thanks to my mum, it has made the process better, but because it took all day, it would fill me with dread. So I break tasks up, and be realistic of how long it will take, and if there other tasks that are more important, like in the mornings I will get my son ready for school, get myself dressed and have breakfast. 

Breaking tasks up, helps stop you from being overwhelmed and if know you need help, then ask someone all they can say is no, and if they do, don't be discouraged, but keep looking. I am going to find a good editor, and a front cover artist, as I write books, check out my current book, which you can buy from amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mum-Me-Gucci-Tits-Virtue-ebook/dp/B0BGSS7H9K/ref=sr_1_1?crid=11Y2WQ18Z9OG8&keywords=mum+%26+me+carrie+holmes&qid=1703597598&s=books&sprefix=Mum%26Me+Carrie%2Cstripbooks%2C54&sr=1-1  

I today needed a bit of advice as my son has a Residential trip coming and had to apply but was worried about it, because he still has accidents at night time, but hoping as we are trying all we can to nip that in the bud, and so, it is good to have someone you can speak to help worry over things. 

It now is the time to plan our year and I did a printable on my blog site, everyone can build a castle, where you can download my Kick start your life in 2024 printable: https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2023/12/28/who-are-you-and-what-do-you-want-to-become-in-2024/

I each week doing a cheat sheet on that blog too check out my first one in this blog: https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2023/12/28/who-are-you-and-what-do-you-want-to-become-in-2024/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X